My partner is ex-military. I still don't what happened when they were in the field, clearly oh there is remarkable. My partner has been seeking a way out of their trauma for decades. Recently a new approach to helping someone quickly get past trauma has been built based on scientific evidence. It is called Havening for anxiety. When I searched for Havening practitioners near me I didn't find any, they are still very rare people. However fortunately I found a Havening specialist who is willing to work over conference calls with my partner and help them dramatically in just a few sessions. The military work has to fit in with therapy, it really does. Our military has experienced so much and not had enough support for them.

I haven't been able to find any Havening literature in English, if anyone knows of any please do inform me. My partner is still in contact with a psychologist that they worked with years ago. When the PTSD was starting, that's. They're currently seeing a military therapist and Havening therapist who has been working with them for years.

It is hard for a family to do havening therapywith someone who they are struggling with. They do it in silence or with signs of depression. The goal is to not have to talk about it. I think they are finding that it is helpful. My partner is finding how to cope. They don't want to keep living in that past anymore. It doesn't seem like their job, but it is. My partner struggles with shame every day.

Many people, myself included will blame ourselves for even getting into that situation in the first place. Some of these things we always see in hindsight. You know that if it was your fault, you know that you can change it?

I don't know how, I wasn't meant to be a superhero like some people I know, I was meant to be a kid and I am trying to be a kid again. Is the world building me a child? I don't know what it is, but I know that I will reach it.

This is the heart of PTSD. It's like a fire hose of feelings that just won't quit. But it's important to be able to see the other side. I can't always see it, but I know that I can. But to reach it, I need to first realize what it is I can be. I'm not the superhero. I'm not meant to save the day all the time. I'm just a human with PTSD. And that is a beautiful thing. That I have the capacity to be happy, sad, frustrated, and at peace. I'm allowed that.

And I know that I can be that thing that I want to be. I want to be a teacher, I want to be a writer, I want to be a singer. I want to be all those things and more. And I want to be the thing that I am not, like my face. I know that I can be happy. And if I'm happy, then I'm okay, right?

Look, I know it's hard sometimes. I know that all this time I've been living my life through my eyes, it's actually been a nightmare. We need to see the other side of things.

But this is when, when we feel happy and when we feel not okay, or not happy for some reason, there's trouble brewing and it's coming from one of two directions. It's coming from the inside or it's coming from the outside. And that's okay, it's a very fluid situation. But, sometimes the outside may get confused with the inside and that's what makes things become confusing. It makes things hard to read and to see. Let's go with an example. You're walking out when you see a firetruck. And you're thinking, "Oh my gosh! I'm outta here! Why is there a firetruck here?" That's what you're thinking when a child appears in your life. But, then, you see the child doing something that makes you think, "Wow! That child is doing something normal. That child is not showing signs of something that you're noticing."

You would notice that he or she is doing some normal things that a child does if you were to observe the child. So, that child isn't exhibiting things that you're experiencing.

Now, you're left with the question, why is a child out here? It could be because there was an accident, it could be because the child wants to get help, or it could be because the child is simply bored and wants to do something fun. And now, you have this child who is behaving in a normal way. You may have also noticed that the child is much more cheerful. You may have also noticed that the child's eyes have become happy and bright.

You may find that the child is there already playing with a buddy if you go to the child's house. And now, the child is no longer just watching you and looking into your eyes. The child's eyes are no longer sad.

And now, you realize that the child may have some mental illness that wasn't showing. You've seen what children can do to the adult who simply shows up on their doorstep without the capability to provide the ability to not become depressed. The child can give you the ability to see the child's abilities. Now, you have the ability to see the child's ability and how it relates to your own.

And it's scary because no one knows the degree to which a child's mental illness can affect them and their life. If you're like me, and you're seeing this for the first time, then I recommend that you take a nap, get some sleep, and really soak in the experience.

What you're also going to want to do is go to each of the child's 'fun' abilities, as I like to call them. Go check the child out. And note how the child reacts to their 'fun' abilities.

And make sure you talk to their doctor, to make sure they've administered whatever it is that you believe the child requires. Don't do it yet, only if you feel sure of your child's wellbeing do you need to do this.

If you feel that you must take your child to the doctor, then take them to a child psychiatrist, but ONLY if you're pretty sure that what they do, you can do better. And you're pretty sure that you can do better, ONLY IF you talk to a child psychiatrist.

To make sure that you're alright with whatever treatment, you may be asked to move to a different clinic. But do it. I'm not going to say don't do it, because you must do it. You simply must do it to be sure that you're alright.

As far as I'm concerned, the only sure fire way to make sure that you're alright is to do whatever it takes to be alright. And the only sure fire way to move is to do whatever it takes to move.

Then, you see the child doing something that makes you think, "Wow! It could be because there was an accident, it could be because the child wants to get help, or it could be because the child is simply bored and wants to do something fun. If you go to the child's house, you may find that the child is there already playing with a buddy. The child can give you the ability to see the child's abilities. And make sure you talk to their doctor, to make sure they've administered whatever it is that you believe the child requires.