My partner is ex-military. I still don't what happened when they were in the field, clearly oh there is tremendous. My partner has been seeking a way out of their trauma for decades. Recently a new approach to helping someone quickly surpass trauma has been built based on scientific evidence. It is called havening method. When I searched for Havening practitioners near me I didn't find any, they are still very rare people. However fortunately I found a Havening specialist who is willing to work over conference calls with my partner and help them dramatically in just a few sessions. The military work has to fit in with therapy, it really does. Our military has experienced so much and not had enough support for them.

I haven't been able to find any Havening literature in English, if anyone knows of any please do inform me. They're currently seeing a military therapist and Havening therapist who has been working with them for years.

It is hard for a family to do havening for phobiaswith someone who they are struggling with. They do it in silence or with signs of depression. The goal is to not have to talk about it. I think they are finding that it is helpful. My partner is finding how to cope. They don't want to keep living in that past anymore. It doesn't seem like their job, but it is. My partner struggles with shame every day.

They need to be able to take control of their lives again and stop blaming themselves for what has happened to them. Many people, myself included will blame ourselves for even getting into that situation in the first place. My partner is working on that, but it is tough. They didn't do anything wrong. It's like they didn't ask for what they have gotten. Their lives aren't what they imagined them to be. Some of these things we always see in hindsight. Others are like a slap in the face. But you know that if it was your fault, you know that you can change it, right?

There are other questions that are bouncing around in my head. How did I get to be the person that I am today? I don't know how, I wasn't meant to be a superhero like some people I know, I was meant to be a kid and I am trying to be a kid again. Is the world building me a child? Am I supposed to be that person that I hate? Is my unhappiness a part of what I am? I don't know, but I am going to do what I can to fix my unhappiness and stop building my past. There is a much larger goal to reach. I don't know what it is, but I know that I will reach it.

This is the heart of PTSD. It's like a fire hose of feelings that just won't quit. But it's important to be able to see the other side. I can't always see it, but I know that I can. To reach it, I need to first realize what it is I can be. I'm not the superhero. I'm not meant to save the day all the time. I'm just a human with PTSD. And that is a beautiful thing. That I have the capacity to be happy, sad, frustrated, and at peace. I'm allowed that.

And I know that I can be that thing that I want to be. I want to be a teacher, I want to be a writer, I want to be a singer. I know that I can be happy.

Look, I know it's hard sometimes. I know that all this time I've been living my life through my eyes, it's actually been a nightmare. We need to see the other side of things.

That's what you're thinking when a child appears in your life. Then, you see the child doing something that makes you think, "Wow! That child is not showing signs of something that you're noticing."

You would notice that he or she is doing some normal things that a child does if you were to observe the child. So, that child isn't exhibiting things that you're experiencing.

It could be because there was an accident, it could be because the child wants to get help, or it could be because the child is simply bored and wants to do something fun. And now, you have this child who is behaving in a normal way.

You may find that the child is there already playing with a buddy if you go to the child's house. And now, the child is no longer just watching you and looking into your eyes. The child's eyes are no longer sad.

The child can give you the ability to see the child's abilities. Now, you have the ability to see the child's ability and how it relates to your own.

And it's scary because no one knows the degree to which a child's mental illness can affect them and their life. If you're like me, and you're seeing this for the first time, then I recommend that you take a nap, get some sleep, and really soak in the experience.

What you're also going to want to do is go to each of the child's 'fun' abilities, as I like to call them. Go check the child out. And note how the child reacts to their 'fun' abilities.

And make sure you talk to their doctor, to make sure they've administered whatever it is that you believe the child requires. Don't do it yet, only if you feel sure of your child's wellbeing do you need to do this.

If you feel that you must take your child to the doctor, then take them to a child psychiatrist, but ONLY if you're pretty sure that what they do, you can do better. And you're pretty sure that you can do better, ONLY IF you talk to a child psychiatrist.

To make sure that you're alright with whatever treatment, you may be asked to move to a different clinic. Do it. I'm not going to say don't do it, because you must do it. You simply must do it to be sure that you're alright.

As far as I'm concerned, the only sure fire way to make sure that you're alright is to do whatever it takes to be alright. And the only sure fire way to move is to do whatever it takes to move.

Then, you see the child doing something that makes you think, "Wow! It could be because there was an accident, it could be because the child wants to get help, or it could be because the child is simply bored and wants to do something fun. If you go to the child's house, you may find that the child is there already playing with a buddy. The child can give you the ability to see the child's abilities. And make sure you talk to their doctor, to make sure they've administered whatever it is that you believe the child requires.