When you are paying for your individual personal counsellor, there are some clear rules to be consistent with.

First, do you connect with them as a person? That is do you get on with them. It turns out the relationship between you and them is one of the most important aspect of your therapy treatments.

Second, are the therapeutic approaches they use the sort of thing you're looking for? If there is a good fit between the therapeutic approach and you then it is more likely you'll get the results you want, once again.

Third, are they flexible in how they work with you. At the start of a therapeutic relationship nobody knows how it's going to go so if you are expected to follow a strict regime say weekly how do you know that's what's going to be needed in the future?

Do you want to explore issues like depression, childhood issues or anything else? It is important to give yourself confidence at the start of any therapeutic relationship. You can only get the best possible results if you give yourself confidence.

Fifth, do you want to explore the issue? Does your therapist encourage you in exploring the issue?

At the start of any therapeutic relationship nobody knows the other one. Remember the therapist has only been paid for their time and if you start to work against them that's not cool. Again, it's important to remember at the start of any therapeutic relationship nobody knows the other one.

The first step is taken with full consciousness of the fact that the relationship is not really at the outset. You've taken the first step in any therapeutic relationship.

It turns out the relationship between you and them is the most important aspect of your therapy treatments.

It is important to give yourself confidence at the start of any therapeutic relationship. At the start of any therapeutic relationship nobody knows the other one. Again, it's important to remember at the start of any therapeutic relationship nobody knows the various other one. You've taken the first step in any healing partnership.