Infatuation is actually a disease

39 high temperature afternoon, Kocho emergency psychological assistance, I agreed without hesitation. When I arrived at the counseling center, she was already waiting at the side of the flower bed, like a peony in full bloom. She did not speak especially. Kocho was in tears. She was facing a painful choice: she stayed in Shanghai Leave on holiday, or fly back to Beijing early tomorrow morning and reunited father and mother since meeting a few years ago in Beijing, Li Dong, Kocho's heart is no longer their own, a smile, every move is for him. Dong Li is from Beijing to Beijing IT professional graduate student, Kobuchi students in Beijing, and Dong a school, is a news professional students. In the eyes of Kocho, Li Dong is a flawless new good man: he is gentle, gentle, considerate, hard-working, everything is good, just look at him, she will be excited for a long time. Kocho this is not a careful person, since then born mind changed temperament, the students found that as long as Dong Li, not far from there must be Kobo Dong Li is a typical well-to-do in Shanghai's only child Son, very rich petty bourgeoisie, pay attention to the quality of life, as girls clean themselves. Of course, he can feel the tail and shadow behind him. How he can stand up and resist the girl's aggressive attack. Shortly afterwards, they are 'dating' a Sven-shanghai man and an excited and restless Beijing girl. At that time, Are very committed, they do not know the hidden dangers have been laid at that time. Their love in the beginning is not equal, Kocho sees him as the life of all, and in the heart of Dong Li, this love is only his life enlightenment, I feel pretty good, but still far from the wounds. After six months, the first test was coming. After graduating, Li Dong insisted on returning to his hometown in Shanghai. However, Kocho did not have scope to go to Shanghai with him. Kocho moment do not want to leave Li Dong, but Kocho's parents are experienced, can feel the dredging and arbitrary Li Dong, the relationship between them has always been in doubt, they see Kocho filled with the wind Sail, do not sail is impossible, and only with her to achieve a return to Shanghai is an important turning point in their relationship, but also the inevitable result of this love. Li Dong love their original state of life, he can not stay in Beijing for Kocho, and Kocho for love at the expense of everything, let alone go to Shanghai. Kocho went to Shanghai, the love tragedy also opened a prelude to a Shanghai middle class family, for Kodate seems to have entered the alien world. North Orange planted south of her result, in addition to her feelings for Li Dong, everything else can not be adapted. Dong did not care very much about Kocho's career, he bent on making his own efforts to make some achievements, but Kocho did not care about the achievements of Dong, she wanted is how to make love Ambilight. Only six months, Li Dong feel like being about to be suffocated by the love of Kocho, he said to Kocho: We are inappropriate, we break up ... ...

Kocho seems to be prepared, she just cried, silently sobbed and said: I have a hunch, sooner or later there will be such a result, I will not rely on you, just want to have the opportunity to feel about your love will come back ... ...

Lidong is also hurt, but there is no way to force myself, they agreed, Kocho moved out to go home, rent a house alone in the nearby places, so that the distance between the two sides of the 'love.' For two full years, Kocho became a 'call girl'. Li Dong went to visit when he had a temperament and occasionally called her back. Every few months, Li Dong would ask Kobune whether it is ready for divorce. Once, Kocho's heart is like a knife-like pain. Her hope is lost every day, Li Dong recently urged him in a hurry, saying that if no divorce he will no longer come to see her when Kocho came to me, has not seen a week, Dong Li, Kocho do not know whether the divorce or Continue to wait for the love that already has gas if gossamer. I asked Kocho, knowing that love can not come back, why beg for more damage. Kobo raised his wrist and showed me: 'If there is no hope at all, why would he buy such a precious gift for me?' The rocking bracelet gave a dazzling white light that seemed to save the last love fantasy. I remind Kocho: bracelet may be forgotten to commemorate, he would like to use it to buffer the abandonment of Tragic Kobyashi and every visitor, before they come to have the answer, they come, just to seek understanding and stand by. Kocho actually know this is an irrevocable love, drag on each other too much harm. Kocho did not hate Li Dong, she only complained about their own fate bad. Kocho not only decided to divorce, the rest of the matter has become very simple, she just can not decide to fake van cleef and arpels necklace butterfly go immediately or a few days. Kocho want to eat the last meal, eat a lot of Lee's rice, the last couple of times to call Mom and Dad, the couple did the last minute ...

And tomorrow, will it hurt more? Since he has so unfeeling, so lingering for what is!

Kocho want to go back and think about it. In the late afternoon, Kocho told me her decision, she was already on the plane, and she decided to go some earlier and end earlier, end early damage ...

'Explore' the difference between love and dependence

Kocho and many women will be very confused as: why pay for it is always no reward. The same is paid, but the motivation is different, the same motivation, the effect is not the same Women in love there is a very obvious blind spot, that is, when she wants to pay, do not ask the feelings of the recipient, or

Do not care about each other's wishes. I want to give as much love as I want, but also because I was given and dedication: I am so good to you, why do not you good to me? Women still have a hobby in love is: the more you Lengying her more and more energetic, you insist on not love her, she insisted love you, but a man can not hold back and back, she immediately feel boring. Li Dong was a bit reluctant at first, but because Kocho particularly needed to love him, she did so by paying extra. When women need love and sex, they sometimes blindfolded, hit who is, or weaving garlands to wear to each other, self-indulge. This inequality of love can not be sustained, the beginning is the slightest loss, then it is miles away, if the beginning reluctantly, the result is not difficult to imagine the future. So when anyone wants to love, the first thing to figure out is whether the other needs it or not, and the second is the extent to which the other needs it. He can be annoying beyond his ability to escape when he feels 'love' becomes a burden. Compare these two sentences: 'I love you because I need you'; and 'I need you because I love you' difference. The former is because of the need for love, the latter because of the need of love, which has totally different meanings in motivation. Love is a very warm, very comfortable and very free feeling and behavior, and the need is mechanical, forced, passive, it is more subject to physiological needs, insecurity and materialism driven, so often not in the body By one's own, can not help but with control purposes. Demand-led love produces a serious sense of dependency. Dependents initially rely on material and 'love', and later tend to suffer setbacks because of dependence. They rely more on the feeling of frustration, that is, the feeling of being abused. Abused will make her a little relief, she wants to be abused to get back what they need. Men can not stand all the acts of a woman's dependence: like Du Mei in 'addiction', she takes the trouble to listen to her replica van cleef necklace butterfly boyfriend and says 'I love you'; one day I talk to him eight times; I want to know all his actions and plans; It is best that he does not have any heterosexual contacts and fill his heart. This is not love, it is dependent on the control of the heart, she can pay for this control of all costs, but this is not love, just need and dependence. This love is no future development, such a love lost is a common heart password love too much woman

I replica van cleef and arpels magic alhambra necklace understand the love is trust, respect, like, easy, free, independent, positive and lasting. Dead, uneasy, anxious and extreme emotions are the signs of lack of love infatuation is not love, silly is a dependence. Some people will be content with their own silly, but do not know silly is a mental illness, his cause is that he lost his personal consciousness and self-will, and thus can not feel the joy of living. His survival in more sense is just a helpless endure. His 'love' is only his 'spiritual opium' to exasperate the hopeless state, or something similar to 'life-saving straw', so he is not self-confident, he and their infatuation and all kinds of 'too much love' Words and deeds, is this kind of unconfident expression. Infatuators put their lives on the balance of others, so that their own trembling, tortured. Kocho was rejected by him because of infatuated love, almost lost her interest in living Excessively over-loved woman was more related to experience and situation Generally speaking, the roles of family members were dislocated because of growth in dysfunctional families. There are some specific reasons:

1. There is no basic love in the environment in which they live, and both parents or on one side are indifferent to their children. Because of the lack of feelings, trying to make up for the make-up in life, so eager to over-give 2. Indifferent to the indifference of men to meet their aspirations of frustration, she needs hard-working but not feeling she is psychologically more accustomed to Not in the state.

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